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Conflict in dating and marital relationships

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This article reviews basic communication theory and lays the foundation for teaching emotional communication skills to couples.

Keywords: marriage, relationships, communication, conflict, emotions, skills There is mounting evidence that “couples build intimacy though hundreds of very ordinary, mundane moments in which they attempt to make emotional connections” (Driver and Gottman 2004).

Family Life Specialist, University of Illinois Extension Associate Professor, Human and Community Development University of Illinois 2006 Christopher Hall, 904 W.

In fact, the emotional layer of communication may be one of the most important for couples.

Healthy relationships developed during childhood, adolescence, and early adulthood can provide the building blocks for healthy adult marriage relationships.

Approximately 90% of Americans will marry at some point in their lives, so it’s worth the investment of time and effort to build a healthy dating relationship and eventual marriage (Bianchi and Casper 2000).

Partners in healthy relationships “own their own stuff,” Bush said. present to their partner’s point of view.”Healthy couples kiss and make up.

They’re willing to look at how they’re contributing to the problem, she said. Unlike unhealthy couples, they don’t name-call, insult, curse or hit below the belt, Bush said. They don’t interrupt or make remarks such as “That’s not right” or “Where did you get such a stupid idea? Typically, after an argument, healthy couples end up feeling supported, heard and understood, Bush said. Hendrix suggested using “I” statements, such as “I think, I feel, I hope, I want.” When your partner hears the word “you” – such as “you did this” or “why didn’t you do that” – this also can activate defensiveness, he said. Pretend that you’re looking through your partner’s eyes, Bush said.

D, co-creator of Imago Relationship Therapy with his wife Helen La Kelly Hunt, Ph. It becomes an opportunity to have a conversation, he said. Healthy couples believe that each partner has a valid point of view, whether they agree with them or not, said Hendrix, also author of several books on relationships, including the bestseller .

They realize that “there are legitimate differences and they understand that they don’t live in each other’s brains.”Healthy couples consider their contribution to the conflict.

Communication includes more than words and grammar.