Start Dating after loosing a spouse

Dating after loosing a spouse

" at AARP.org, suggests that those who are still grieving the loss of a spouse are not yet prepared to date.

There is no quick fix or “getting over it” and moving on.

We all move through grief in our own ways and means.

Even small decisions can sometimes stretch past your point of coping. What is suitable for anyone must be decided individually.

Sometimes you have to let go of preconceived notions of the correct way to act and grieve.

She may spend a lot of time talking about her late spouse or making comparisons between the new partner and her husband.

Keogh agrees, suggesting that therapy may be a better alternative to embarking on a new relationship, if grief is severe.

About a year after Mort’s death, Mary felt ready to start taking baby steps to move on and meet new people.

“Mort had been a hunter and had promised to teach me how to shoot,“ she says, “but we never got around to it.” When a shooting range, started by two former SEALS, opened near her home, Mary decided to learn what she had missed with husband.

For the first year after her husband Mort died of cancer, Mary Childs, now 68, looked mainly to her two sisters and her quilting friends for comfort and a social connection.”I couldn’t do much more than that," says the Lakewood, CO, retired nurse.

”On the one occasion that I attended a couples’ function with friends from our past, I was totally uncomfortable.” Indeed, many people who lose a spouse often feel like when it comes to socializing, it's a couples' world.

Kathryn Rateliff Barr has taught birth, parenting, vaccinations and alternative medicine classes since 1994.